- Ask one question at a time. A conversation, not an interview.
- Always answer it yourself too.
- The follow-up ("why?") is usually the best part.
How to use these questions
- One at a time. A question a day beats twenty in a row. Nobody likes an interview.
- Answer it too. It's a conversation, not a quiz.
- Follow the thread. The best part is usually the follow-up: "why?", "what happened next?"
- Skip freely. If a question doesn't fit, move on. No pressure.
Pick a kind, then tap the button.
Getting to know you
For new couples, or anyone who wants to start at the beginning.
- What's something you're weirdly good at?
- What did you want to be when you were little?
- What does a perfect Sunday look like for you?
- Which song could you listen to on repeat for a week?
- What's your comfort food after a long day?
- Who in your family are you most like?
- What's a small thing that always makes your day better?
- Are you a planner or a go-with-the-flow person?
- What's the best trip you've ever taken?
- What's something you've changed your mind about recently?
Fun and silly
- If we were a duo in a film, what would the film be called?
- What's the most useless talent you have?
- Which fictional character would you date, and should I be worried?
- If you could only eat one street food forever, what would it be?
- What's the weirdest thing you've ever searched online?
- If we had a pet, what would we name it?
- Which emoji describes me best?
- What's your karaoke song, no shame allowed?
- If we swapped lives for a day, what would you do first?
- What's the funniest thing that's happened on one of our dates?
Deep questions
- What's something about you that most people don't know?
- When do you feel most like yourself?
- What's a fear you've had for a long time?
- What's the hardest thing you've been through, and what got you through it?
- What does a good life look like to you?
- What are you proud of but rarely talk about?
- Which moment changed you the most?
- What do you need most when you're upset?
- What did your parents' relationship teach you about love?
- What's a dream you haven't told many people about?
About us
- What did you think of me the first time we talked?
- When did you know you liked me?
- What's your favourite memory of us so far?
- What's one tiny thing I do that you love?
- What's something we should do more often?
- Which song reminds you of us?
- What's our best inside joke, and how did it start?
- When do you feel most loved by me?
- What's something you'd like us to try together?
- What do you think we are best at as a couple?
Dreams and the future
- Where do you see yourself in five years?
- Where would you love to live one day?
- What's on your bucket list?
- What does your dream home look like?
- How do you feel about kids, or pets, or both?
- Which trip should we take next?
- What would you do if money didn't matter?
- What do you want to learn in the next year?
- How do you picture a normal day when we're older?
- What's one thing you hope never changes about us?
Love and needs
- How do you most like to be shown love?
- What makes you feel appreciated?
- Is there something I do that bothers you, even a little, that I might not know about?
- How do you like to be comforted after a bad day?
- How much time alone do you need to recharge?
- What's something you'd like more of from me?
- How should we handle it when we disagree?
- What does trust mean to you?
- What's a promise you'd like us to make to each other?
- What's one way I could make your week easier?
When you're apart
For busy days, different shifts, trips or long distance.
- What was the best part of your day?
- What do you wish I had been there for today?
- What made you think of me this week?
- What should we do the very next time we're together?
- What's been on your mind today?
- What do you like doing most when we call?
- What do you miss most about me when we're apart?
- If I could teleport to you right now, what would we do?
- What can I send you that would make tomorrow better?
- What's one thing you'd like me to know about your week?
Quick daily check-ins
- Tea or coffee today?
- What's one word for your mood right now?
- What are you looking forward to this week?
- What's the best thing you ate today?
- What's one thing you're grateful for today?
- How did you sleep?
- Which song is stuck in your head?
- What would make tonight perfect?
- What's one small win from today?
- Hug or space after a long day?
Make it a daily habit
One question a day is a sweet habit, but it's easy to forget. In Toffee & Bao, there's a new question for the two of you every day. Answer first and your partner's answer unlocks, so neither of you can copy. Answering together also keeps your streak growing.
It works just as well when you live together as when you're apart: a little moment to learn something new about the person you thought you knew.
Quick answers
What are good questions to ask your partner?
Good questions are open and curious: they ask "why" and "what if", not just yes or no. Mix light ones (what's your comfort food?) with deeper ones (when do you feel most loved?), and always answer them yourself too.
How many questions should you ask at once?
Just one or two. Let each question turn into a real conversation. One a day is a lovely rhythm.
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